Our culture and media infuse us with propaganda about our worthiness. It becomes easy to think we’re not successful enough, not smart enough, not old/young enough, not attractive enough, not manly enough, not good enough… NOT ENOUGH!! We feel vulnerable and ashamed and start to isolate ourselves, which only makes us feel more unworthy and unappealing.
The fact is that we ARE enough, worthy simply because we exist. De-shaming is an important strategy I use to address self-esteem problems, and this includes helping people understand how their early experiences have shaped them and their (now maladaptive) ways of coping. The goal is to accept frailties, celebrate strengths and to judge worthiness from the inside out. Self-care, self-compassion and confidence grow out of improved feelings of self-esteem.
To learn more, see: "The Gifts of Imperfection: Let go of who you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are” (book by Brene Brown)
Of all our infirmities, the most savage is to despise our being
Michel de Montaigne