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We are social beings, wired to be attached. So, of course, we all wish our relationships to be safe, close and fulfilling. When our attachments are distressed, we cope by compensating - most often by either seeking attention and engaging our partners in some way OR by shutting down to avoid making things even worse.
I am an ICEEFT certified couple therapist, serving both straight and gay couples using emotionally-focused therapy, the most empirically validated approach for couples, which fosters more love, stability and happiness as the emotions driving distress in your relationship are processed and changed. Find out more about this kind of therapy from its originator at http://www.drsuejohnson.com and more about research results at http://www.iceeft.com/images/PDFs/EFTResearch.pdf .
To learn more:
“Hold Me Tight – seven conversations for a lifetime of love” (book by Sue Johnson)
Video: Bonding in Human Beings https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a0IYQGXiJxw
Owning our story can be hard, but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy.